by Claire Tourney

There is an overwhelming amount of advice available for the broken hearted lover who is desperately hoping to win their ex back. And most of it is excellent, well intentioned advice.

But there is one recurring theme that runs through almost every effective tip, strategy or method. It’s the concept of self love. It’s very simple – you really can’t expect someone else to like you, or even be attracted to you if you do not like yourself.

Now I know that lack of self love and low self esteem can be almost endemic. And there are numerous reasons for that, too many to go into here.

But no matter how hard it may be to really come to that place of liking yourself, it’s the most effective way of getting your ex back. Many of the relationship break up blunders that people make are because of neediness and desperation, two classic examples of a lack of healthy self esteem and just genuinely being OK with yourself.

Now that does not mean there aren’t some other things you might want to change to make yourself more attractive to your ex, but these should be things you would like to change anyway, to be a better you, not just to try and influence someone else’s perception of you.

After all, you are the most important person that you will live with for the rest of your life, whether you are in a relationship or not. So the best thing you can do right now if you really want to win back your ex lover is to not only look at where the relationship failed, but to look at whether you are really OK enough with yourself to sustain a healthy relationship in the first place.

If you start working on self acceptance and getting a healthy sense of love and respect for yourself this will not only make you a happier, more confident person, but you will become much more attractive to your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife too. Then it will be time to put some SMARTER strategies to work to help you win back your lost love.

About the Author:
Hi, I’m Claire Tourney and I’ve got some great advice on how to get your self esteem and confidence back and get your ex back too. Discover a PROVEN, successful plan to win back your lost love by visiting my Squidoo lens Get Your Ex Back!

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