We all dream of being swept off our feet, falling madly in love, and living happily ever after. Unfortunately, falling in love rarely happens like it does in the movies and when you start to feel like you love someone you may not know how or when it is appropriate to tell them.

This can make for a lot of uncomfortable little, or not so little, moments in your budding relationship. Telling someone that you love isn’t only about sharing your feelings, it is about being vulnerable and accepting the fact that you may be rejected as a result of your feelings, and this can be down right scary!

Saying the Words

When you know that you love someone, think of a special way to do it. Maybe you could plan a special dinner, revisit the location where you first met, or just plan something out of the ordinary that will help set the stage. This may give you the confidence and the build up that you need to actually say the words aloud.

Make sure to start off telling the person that you love that you want to be open with them. Tell them that you believe that communication is key and you have something really important to tell them and you aren’t sure how they are going to respond. You will want to make sure that you are able to look into your loved one’s eyes when you say the words. And then, just say it.

Saying the words out loud will be the hardest and the easiest thing you have ever done in your life. When you say the words you not only unleash a big burden you are also taking on possible rejection, which may leave you with an odd mix of emotions.

After you say the words you need to be prepared for a reaction from the other person. You need to prepare for the fact that the person may not feel the same way and determine ahead of time what this will mean. You also need to be prepared for your partner to be speechless and just not know what to say, this is a common response.

Remember that telling someone that you love them is not something that you should rush into. In addition, telling someone that you love them isn’t all there is to it. You also need to show the person that you love them and care for them by being friendly toward them, talking to one another, and just spending quality time together. Love is a commitment, but it can be an awesome experience when you remember that to maintain love you will need to work at it.

Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating services.

Though we hear that all we need is love, why is it so difficult to find the right woman or the right man? While it can seem as though we might never find the perfect person for us, this is far from the reality of relationships. There are many happy couples and many more happy married couples. You don’t have to lose hope in your quest for love, but you do need to look for new ways to bring love energy into your life. With Feng Shui, you will begin to not only attract the person of your dreams, but also to attract someone that wants to be with you as well.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…

Before you can head to the grocery store, you make a list of the things you want or else you’ll come home with bags filled with things you don’t need. The same can be said of many people’s quests for love. Because you feel so desperate for love, you cast a net that longs to catch anyone – and you end up with more catches that you want to throw back into the water. To find lasting love, you need to be a bit more specific in your search.

Start by making a list of the things that are important to you in a partner. You should be as specific as possible in this list because this is going to increase your energy for this specific person to come into your life. Take this list and place it in the relationship area of your bedroom – which is the farthest right hand corner from the doorway. This way, you can look at this list often and increase the energy of attracting this person into your life. If you’re concerned that people will read it, make the type or the lettering small. Only you need to be able to read it.

While you’re in your bedroom, you should lie on your bed and see if you can see the doorway from this position. If not, you should move your bed so that you can. This will help you ‘see’ the energy of new love come into your life. Plus, it helps keep the energy of your bedroom calm and serene, just as you want your relationships to be.

Take care to remove the sharp corners from your bedroom, as much as you can too. This might mean putting plants or other objects in the corners of your bedroom to ensure that you’re not being ‘attacked’ by the sharp areas that point at your bed as you sleep. If you can, add softer colors to your bedroom as well to help soften the energy of your love life, while also being inviting to anyone that might get a chance to be in your bedroom.

She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not….

To further use Feng Shui in your bedroom, you should make sure to add pictures of couples and pairs of things in your relationship corner. This will enhance the energy of having a partner in your life. When you leave single items in this corner, you will attract singular energy.

Also, if you like pink, you should add a bit to your relationship corner as well, if not to your whole bedroom. And no, you don’t have to choose something that’s overly feminine as there are many deeper shades of pink that look attractive in a man’s room as well as in a woman’s bedroom. Try to make sure your bedroom is in the relationship corner of your house too, if you can.

If you have any remaining evidence of past relationships in your home, it will help you to remove them. These pictures and mementos can be standing in the way of the energy of new and lasting relationships.

Feng Shui is a great way to enhance the love energy in your life, and before long, you will meet the right one for you.

Candace Czarny, ASID,CFM, LEED AP, “Award Winning” Certified Interior Designer and Feng Shui Expert. http://www.ArtOfPlacement.com is continually ranked “Top 10″ in Google and Yahoo. Clients testify of dramatic results!

Feel the vibes?

Although ridiculed, that question is not nearly as silly as it may seem at first. In fact, science has now recognized that what we call “reality” is in fact based on strings of vibrating particles.

In other words, we and everything else in the universe consist, in essence, of vibrations. And the ultimate vibration–the highest, lightest, fastest, finest, largest, most powerful of all frequencies–is unconditional love.

The vibration of unconditional love is sheer joy, utter bliss, total transcendence. It is the healing, uplifting Source of All That Is. Some of us call that ultimate love vibration God. Others use different names. The moniker makes no difference. God is love. Love is God. Love is the Goddess, too.

This begs some obvious questions, however. If everything is love, why is there so much ugliness and nastiness in this world? Why is our ultimate love-essence so well hidden? Why so much alienation, separation, suffering, and cruelty? Why are we wounded, fearful, and lacking instead of whole, loving, and abundant?

Sages have maintained for millennia that the physical world is just an illusion. For being “unreal,” however, it certainly packs a powerful and painful bite.

No, the physical world we inhabit is very real. It serves many useful purposes, the most important of which is to reflect back to us the state of our vibes. If we don’t like the reflection, instead of trying to “change the world,” perhaps we might start with changing ourselves–our individual vibrations.

There are many ways to do this. We influence our vibrations every time we meditate, pray, chant, assume yoga postures, consume certain foods, herbs, or supplements, visualize, and more. And while the effects of the preceding activities are often very positive, they also tend not to be permanent. To keep experiencing the benefits, we have to repeat the chanting, the meditating, the yoga postures, the visualizations, the supplements, and so forth.

Some maintain that this is simply spiritual discipline. But it can also devolve into a spiritual treadmill, tying us to routine and repetition even when it may no longer make much sense for us to continue.

Instead, why not just go straight to our actual vibrations? Most of us intuitively sense that love is healing. What we don’t yet realize is what wounds us in the first place. We are in the dark about what keeps us separate from that ultimate love vibration, locked into cycles of misery, poverty, violence, and despair.

Two words: self-judgment. Let us shine the light at long last on how self-judgment injures us at the energy-essence level because it does not vibrate. Self-judgment stops what is meant to be our free-flowing essences into a fixed interpretation of our experiences, even when that interpretation is mistaken or no longer valid.

Once parts of our vibrating essences are stopped entirely or slowed by self-judgment, we experience pain and disease at all levels of self: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. We manifest lack instead of abundance, disease instead of health.

Self-judgment hampers, warps, and twists the vibration of our essences into something barely recognizable and often repulsive. Self-judgment is the pervert, the liar, the deceiver, spreading darkness and disconnection, reveling in pain and mayhem. If self-judgment sounds like a more familiar term, such as Satan or the Devil, well, the shoe certainly fits.

All of us go through our lives reeling unknowingly from the self-judgments trapped within our vibrating essences which, as a consequence of self-judgment, do not vibrate as freely as they could and in some places do not vibrate at all. And, just as self-judgment wounds us individually, the collective reality we know as the human condition on earth suffers in the extreme from the combined impact of all of our self-judgments.

Believe it or not, the preceding is good news. It means that once we remove even the slightest self-judgment from our vibrating essences, we have healed not only ourselves individually, but our world collectively.

We are indeed linked to each other and All That Is through our interconnected vibrations. When self-judgment slows a part of our vibrating essences, the rest of us suffer as well, even if indirectly. The reverse is also true. When we remove a self-judgment from our vibrating essence, we help heal everyone and everything else around us.

Healing our vibrating essences, then, is the greatest gift we can offer to others as well as to ourselves. Far from being selfish or self-absorbed, healing self at the vibrating essence level is the ultimate act of generosity because doing so helps others heal, too.

We are indeed all that connected via the vibes.

Candace (C.L.) Talmadge is the author of the epic fantasy Green Stone of Healing(R) series and a political columnist syndicated by North Star Writers Group. As StoneScribe, she blogs about the intersection of politics and spirituality.

Can Your Break Up, Divorce or Partners Rejection be Prevented, even though it seems like the world has ended?

Are you the only one trying?

How is it that some people take their lover back after an affair,or unfaithfulness,or abuse?

Often, after a break up, people will try resolving the situation by repeatedly telling their ex-partner how much they love them. Some of us believe the old saying that “love conquers all” and that our love for our partner is so self-evident, that it should be enough to save the relationship. The fact of the matter is that a loving relationship often won’t work. Your love for your ex-partner, vast as it may very well be, just ain’t enough – your ex-partner needs to love you too.

AND, they need to love you the right way.

If your partners love for you is “on some level”, “I really care for you”, or some similar plutonic reason, then this is a friend, not a lover.

Couples with this claim of love for each other, are either already failing as partners, or have decided to settle-down and this is “convenient” – for security reasons.

Love that involves attraction, desire, and excitement – Passion, is the romantic love that originally brings people together, keeps them together, and brings them back together after a breakup. When two people have this type of love for each other they will do everything they can to keep the relationship together. This is real “I can’t live without you” love.

Revitalising “I can’t live without you” love in your ex-partner is extremely difficult because you can’t force these feelings in your ex-partner. In fact, the harder you try to force it, the more likely they are to run the other way. A more subtle approach is required to recreate these feelings in your ex-partner.

Often, your ex-partner is only “reacting” to how you are acting and what you say.

After a break up, in our devastated state of mind, we sometimes manage to convince ourselves that if we can make our ex feel sorry, or guilty enough for us, they will want to get back together. So, we may act sullen and depressed… wallowing in our self pity. Generally, being pathetic.

Or, we may over-dramatise – beating our breast, tearing our hair, rending our clothes, and behaving in ways we normally wouldn’t (embarrassing on reflection) – hoping that our ex-partner will realize just how much pain we are going through and how useless life is without them. All those things that made us attractive to our ex in the beginning, we now pour all our energy into making ourselves unattractive.

We turn to desperate and counter productive approaches like this when we feel we have no solid plan, viable alternatives, or available options. Logic never comes into play. We are hurt.

Be mindful though, these self-destructive acts negatively impact upon your life and damage any chance of getting your ex back. The more out-of-character you act, the more certain they become that they made a HUGE mistake ever taking up with you in the first place!

In order to have any chance of reconciliation, the first things to do are, temper any irrational behavior and set aside self pity. Refuse to sink into negative feelings and behaviors. As comfortable as self pity is, it’s not helping you get back with your ex, achieve your goals, or create the life you want.

Considering there is no “get your ex back” night school, you may wish to visit http://hubpages.com/hub/ex-back to gain a little more insight, as to how you can go about Winning Back Love.

Mr Meagher has been a Netpreneur for 5 years. Producing diverse articles from Agriculture to Weddings. further reading to be found at : http://www.squidoo.com/ex-back

Tired of being single? Weary from the dating scene? Feeling as though giving up on finding true love is your best choice at the moment? If your answer to these questions is a resounding yes, I ask you to first consider trying these ten ideas. If none of them work… you have my permission to throw in the towel, at least for a month or two!

1. Create a “Must Have” and “Can’t Stand” list.

How do you know what you are looking for in a partner if you haven’t taken the time to actually sit down and write it out? Take out a piece of paper… on one side make a list of the qualities that your ideal mate “must have.” On the other side of the paper, make a list of the qualities you could not stand for your partner to possess.

The items on your list must represent the qualities that are most important to you. The items must also be more realistic and less superficial. For example, instead of saying, “I want my partner to be rich.” You might want to say, “I want a partner who is financially responsible.”

Take the list that you create and put it in a safe place so that you can compare the qualities that are important to you against the qualities of prospective dates. Keep in mind that you are not looking for perfection in others. Few people will meet all of your “Must Haves”… but they should meet the really important ones.

2. Act as though you already have a mate

Have you ever heard a married man who wears a wedding ring say he gets hit on more now than he did when he was single? There is truth to that. The reason why is because people who are already in a relationship have nothing to gain or lose by getting to know strangers. There is not a feeling of discomfort or awkwardness when striking up conversations. There is no sense of, “I hope they don’t think I like them.” “I hope I don’t come across that I do like them.” “I am not sure this person is my type, I better not talk with them.” “This person is so hot that I am feeling nervous.”

When you have a partner you can get to know people without all of these worries, concerns and expectations. You can get to know people just for who they are. Many people you talk to may not seem like “your type” at first, but the more you open up the conversation the more you may realize they are worth getting to know. People in relationships don’t put initial judgments on others because they are not vulnerable to the consequences of getting to know others. Act in this way and you will find a world of dating opportunity opening up to you!

3. Be vulnerable and open with people

My yoga instructor said it perfect, “I am strong because I am vulnerable. I am vulnerable because I am strong.” In other words, being real and imperfect with people is actually a very attractive quality. Just being yourself is the best way to demonstrate how wonderful you are.

Think of how attracted you are to men/women who seem to be genuine and open about themselves and their lives. Walls are made to hold people in, or close people out. Walls around your heart hold people back and push love further away.

4. Start doing more of the things that you love

So many people want to meet someone special so that they can share their interests with a partner. I suggest that you start spending more time doing the things you love and see if you meet someone who also loves to participate in these things. If you love to play tennis… why not join a tennis league? If your hobby includes reading, why not spend more time in bookstores? The love of your life could show up on the other side of the net, or perhaps in the next aisle!

5. Make eye contact and say hello to ten strangers of the opposite sex each week

Most people would agree that there is nothing sexier than eye contact. Looking someone in the eyes and saying “hello” demonstrates sincerity as well as confidence. Remember in the movie Jerry McGuire when the character played by Renee Zellweger says, “You had me at hello?” Get someone at hello!

6. Tell your friends and family that you are ready to find a life partner

Advertising works! Referrals are the best source of positive advertising. Telling your friends and family you are truly ready for a committed relationship is like starting your own advertising campaign. They will be pleased that you have shared your desires with them and you will find that once people know this, they become aware of keeping their eyes and ears open for others with the same goal! Be ready to be set up on some great dates from people who have your best interest at heart!

7. Smile more

A smile is worth ten thousand words. A smile on your face creates a twinkle in your eye and often a spring in your step. People, by nature, are drawn to what makes them feel good. Smiling people make others feel good. Draw them to you with a nice solid grin!

8. Say yes more than you say no

According to Webster’s Dictionary the word “yes” is described as “used as a function word to express agreement.” Are you ready? Yes, I am!

In contrast, Webster’s defines the word “no” as “a function to express the negative.” Yes opens your world, no closes it. If you are ready to change your life, the meet a partner, to experience more… then you need to say “yes” to life. Yes to love, yes to change, yes to adventure and yes to the opportunities of meeting other wonderful singles, just like you.

9. Go out of your comfort zone

Do you remember the last time that someone talked you into doing something that you did not want to do? Do you remember thinking that an evening on your couch would be more fun than going to a rodeo? You end up going and 9 out of 10 times, what happens? You have fun!

Don’t feel comfortable walking up to someone and asking them to dance? What do you have to lose? What do you have to gain? When you go out of your comfort zone, you grow as a person. You experience new things and may even meet new people. Maybe you’ll meet “the one!”

10. Pray and project your desires into the universe

Have you ever heard of the researcher Dr. Elizabeth Targ? If not, let me “enlighten” you. She conducted a study on the therapeutic effects of prayer on AIDS and cancer patients. The results were striking.

After selecting practicing healers from a group of Christians, Buddists, Jews and Indian shamans… she supplied them with first names, blood counts and photographs of 20 patients with advanced Aids. For an hour a day, over a ten-week period, the healers concentrated their thoughts and prayers of these twenty people. There was another group of twenty that they did not focus on.

Targ’s research showed that the prayed for patients had fewer and less severe new illnesses, fewer doctor’s visits, less hospitalizations and were in better moods. Coincidence? Perhaps, but I choose to believe in the power of prayer and positive thoughts.

Prayer is about having faith and believing in what you can’t see. It is about accepting the idea that verbalizing your hopes, dreams and wishes is the beginning steps to making them a reality in your life. You don’t have to be a religious person to know that positive thinking creates positive actions which create positive life experiences.

I think the power of prayer is powerful and I recommend giving it a try – no matter what your spiritual beliefs are. Like Dr. Targ’s study… your results might just be striking!

Jackie Mahaney is a dating & relationship journalist as well as an inspiring author of a novel titled, “Meet Delaney” and host of “Everyday Woman” found on Women Web TV. Mahaney writes about life’s personal relationships with honesty, integrity and of course, humor! To learn more about her books, relationship events and web tv show, visit Jackie Mahaney.