Ending a relationship is just about as tough as facing the news you’ve been dumped. Okay, maybe different emotions but the fact is, it’s tough telling someone you want to break up simply because you know it’s going to hurt them.

But this isn’t the only reason why relationships end. The truth is, many relationships will run well past their expiry date, that is, they have outlived their usefulness for want of a better description. Why is this? Simply because neither party wants to be the one to be seen ending it. But that doesn’t make sense when there is no love left does it?

Well, it can get complicated because if it’s a marriage in particular, despite the fact both partners may want out, there are issues to consider such as how their possessions will be split up, the kids and of course, facing up to the embarrassment with friends and family.

In this article, we will take a look at how to end a relationship avoiding hurt to either party. It’s not easy but it can be done.

Ending A Relationship

1. You need to get clear on why you want to terminate the romance.  The immediate reason that jumps into your mind may not be the real reason.  Once you get clear, the next step in ending a relationship is to get honest.

2. Schedule a mutually convenient time for the breakup.  In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone, but if distance is an issue in the relationship, you should do it sooner than wait for a time you can get together.

3. Get into a state of compassion when ending the relationship.  If you want to stay friends after the break up, you need to conclude the romantic ties with love and compassion.

4. Don’t put your partner on the defensive.  Talk about the things you’ve learned and the memories you will cherish that have come from your love.  Be present during the break up.  Your partner may become very emotional during this time.  You need to respond to their needs.

5. Don’t take anything personally when ending a relationship.  Your partner may say things they don’t really mean.  Let these words roll off of your back.

6. Your partner may need to meet with you more than once to conclude the relationship.  Or, they may need space.  Give your ex what they need to get through the transition time.

7. To change course, if you get cold feet and suddenly realize you don’t want to end it then can you save the relationship? That is something you have to decide.  Virtually all relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met.  If you have the time and are willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.

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