Phone Number Junkies
By DavidWygant | August 7, 2008
How many times have you been out and passed your phone number to a person… only to never have a phone call manifest?
It’s funny, David and I were on a call the other day when we started laughing at all of the people online in forums and blogs screaming to the masses:
“I got 5 phone numbers last night!”
Perfect… congratulations… you’re the man…
You know, I’ve been there… and I’ve been that guy. There’s something that strokes the ego a bit when you get a woman’s phone number… even if you have no real intention of calling.
What?
That’s right… there are people out there right now that are gathering phone numbers just to satisfy their own “manhood”.
Of course, for many men… and even women… this isn’t a problem in the beginning when they are just learning to branch out and talk to people.
In fact, getting phone numbers for people helps to raise confidence levels for many of the “socially inept”.
However, once you get past this introductory level… there’s no point in getting point numbers just to get phone numbers.
The whole “hey, give me your number and we’ll hang out sometime” is getting pretty lame.
Personally, I only get someone’s number if I have a definitive plan in mind. Most people use phone numbers as a “what if” scenario… like… “what if I’m bored, now I have someone to call”.
Not this guy. If I don’t really feel a reason to get to know someone better… I don’t ask.
Here are a few reason why you don’t want to be a “phone number junkie”:
1. If you get someone’s number and don’t call… and they see you out later sometime… now you are setting yourself up to HAVE to lie to the person if they ask why haven’t you called.
Personally, I really dislike being in that situation. Plus, you’re gonna look like a dick either way… even if they don’t ask.
Oh, and don’t forget that now… all of her friends know.
2. Many guys worry about women flaking… and from my experience… women flake at the beginning for one of two reasons: either she gives her number out habitually… or you haven’t built up enough intrigue.
For myself, I tend to have a reason to ask for someone’s number like: “I have a free lunch hour tomorrow… how about meeting me for lunch, coffee, etc”
There’s a great reason that I like doing this… you can already find out right off the bat if she’s gonna flake. If she says, “oh I can’t do tomorrow” and doesn’t follow up with an alternative… she’s just not that interested.
However, if she responds with “Oh, I can’t do tomorrow, but I can definitely do Wed… how about that?”… that’s a great sign.
You can “weed” the pretenders out right off the bat.
3. She might give you the dreaded “rejection hotline” number. I know many cities have it.
It’s a phone number that people can give out in place of their own… that has a recording that basically states that you’ve been rejected and that the woman really didn’t want to give her number to you.
It’s true, I’ve heard it… and it’s funny as hell.
4. You only have a certain number of phone number slots in your cell phone… you might as well load it up with ones that YOU’RE GONNA USE.
I want to elaborate on something really quickly about number 2…
Some people may say that putting yourself out there and asking her if she’d like to meet you out to get to know each other further “put’s the ball in her court” and “gives your power away”…
I disagree.
You see, if you’ve done your job of building intrigue… this won’t set you back a bit and… quite frankly… I find that women respond much better to a direct plan…
rather than a “we’ll hang out sometime”.
Plus, my time is valuable… and I communicate that in more than one way.
So, I want to know if I’m going to be wasting my time on someone as fast as possible… whether through flakiness or indecisiveness…
Use the phone number as a stepping stone… as a means-to-an-end. Don’t use it as a “private victory”.
And I almost forgot… if you have a plan for the phone number right off the bat…
you don’t have to worry about the mythical “3 day rule”… 
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How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back-The Wrong Ways That Will Destroy Your Chances!
By AlButler | August 6, 2008
You have just broke up with your boyfriend and you want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back. You still love him but your emotions are running wild, you are not thinking straight. You just know you want your ex boyfriend back and you want him back now.
First thing you need to do is not be irrational and calm down. You are thinking how can you be rational and calm when you just lost the man you love. But if you don’t you probably will do one or more of these following wrong ways on how to get your ex boyfriend back.
How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back-The Wrong Ways
1. Say Things That Will Push Your Ex Boyfriend Buttons.
We all know how to push the buttons of our loved ones, we know what to say to get them upset. It may be to blame them for everything that goes wrong or say things such as “you don’t pay any attention to me anymore”.
But if you really want to get your ex boyfriend back why in the world would you want to start an argument. Remember, you have just broken up with your ex boyfriend and you are not thinking rational. Do not start an argument with your ex boyfriend.
2. Try to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous.
Oh come on ladies, men don’t like to be make jealous! Do you? You have just broken up with your boyfriend and your first reaction is to make him jealous? Do you really think making him jealous is going to make him come running back to you. You need a better plan than that to get your ex boyfriend back.
3. Behave Like a Stalker.
You are thinking or want to call him constantly, email or text him every minute. He needs his space for a while, so do you. Now that you have broken up with your boyfriend, it is very important that you take a true break from your relationship.
In other words, you need to stop calling him, emailing, texting, stopping by, showing up at places where you think your he will be. You both need a break from each other. You need to give him chance to miss you, he may be going through the same process as you are going through. Leave him along for a while.
4. Beg Your Ex Boyfriend to Come Back to You.
No, this won’t work either. Acting or being needy by begging is a turn-off for men. You will realize after you have a plan on how to get your ex boyfriend back that you want to approach your ex boyfriend in a position of strength not pity. Do you want your ex boyfriend to come back to you because of pity? You want him to come back to you because he realize that he loves you.
If you have already made these mistakes it is not too late. The good news is you still have time to salvage your relationship! You need to get your head on straight now and start working on ways how to get your ex boyfriend back.
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Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back - 3 Big Mistakes Will Doom Your Chances
By AlButler | August 6, 2008
You and your boyfriend have just broken up and you are realizing you still love him. You think there is no hope in getting your ex boyfriend back.
There is hope but you need to step back from the relationship. Just after a break up is when you tend to do things that will doom your chances.
Your heart is breaking, your emotions are running wild, and you are not thinking straight. Your first reactions after a break up are usually based on emotions and not logic. You will make mistakes that may destroy any chances of getting an ex boyfriend back.
3 Mistakes You Want to Avoid in Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back
1. Do Not Act Needy
Acting needy is not a positive emotion but a negative emotion, an emotion that tends to turn-off men. You want to get a positive new beginning on your relationship with your ex boyfriend and you want that new beginning be from a position of strength, certainly not pity.
Do you really want pity to be the main plan for getting an ex boyfriend back?
2. Do Not Constantly Call, Text or Email Your Ex Boyfriend
He needs a break and you also need time to take a break, a true break from each other.
You need to stop calling, emailing, or showing up at places where you know your ex boyfriend will be. You might think if you do not do everything you can do right away then it will be too late.
But you really need this time right after a break up to put together a plan on getting your ex back.
3. Do Not Beg Him to Take You Back
This is the biggest mistake in the first days after a break up with your ex boyfriend.
You really miss him and you want to tell him that you will die without him, he is your whole life, or you can not be happy without him.
“Please, please, please take me back, things will be different the next time.” Do not fool yourself, begging does not work. You will need a better plan on getting your ex boyfriend.
Begging is a position of weakness, not strength. You want a plan where your make your ex boyfriend realize how much he loves you and he wants you back because of his love for you. Pity is not love.
Your first emotions after a break up that leads to the above three mistakes are totally normal. You just want to get your boyfriend back, you miss him and you still love him. But these three mistakes will damage your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.
There is hope you can get your ex boyfriend back, people get back together everyday. But they don’t get back together because of needy, pity, and begging. If they do, the relationship will not last long.
You need to avoid the temptations of your first emotions and develop a plan that uses proven ways of getting your ex boyfriend back.
Watch Free Videos Here Yes, it is possible and you can be happy again. Proven ways on how to get back your ex although some of them may be unconventional!
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